Why women should stop complaining about other women’s cosmetic surgery
As an advocator of equality and women having the right to be in control of our own bodies, an opinion that is shared by the majority, it never ceases to baffle me when I hear women being judgemental about others who have elected to undergo cosmetic surgery.
Take Renee Zellweger as a recent example: one red carpet appearance after facial surgery, and the knives came out all over again. Knives that quite possibly caused her more pain then the surgical knives that gave her the face she’s now obviously happier to have. I hope she’s strong enough to enjoy her new look and not feel less of a beautiful woman now her so-called sisters have had their say. Personally, I thought Renee was lovely before her surgery too, but that’s irrelevant. Not because I don’t know Renee, not because Renee doesn’t know me, but because I believe a woman has the right to decide over her own body. It’s her prerogative to have any kind of cosmetic surgery she dang well wishes to have, particularly as we can safely assume it was paid for with her own hard-earned taxed cash. She’s happy and harming nobody, so leave her alone. Or better still; tell her she looks great, she probably needs to hear that right now.
But what about Botox? Well, what about Botox? That’s another personal decision that women should be free to make for themselves. Yes, it can go horribly wrong and we’ve all seen cases where it certainly has, but I would still fight for a woman’s right to choose Botox over judgemental humiliation by women who tell her she’s ridiculous. When has feeling better about yourself ever been ridiculous?
And what about fat liposuction and tummy tucks? Not gonna lie, the thought of a tummy tuck has more than crossed my mind but so far I’ve resisted. Not for reasons of pride or surgery prejudice, but for reasons of anticipated post-op pain or scarring. But this is a decision entirely between my belly fat and me. We are still in negotiations.
That having been said, women can be harsher still towards other women they perceive as being too thin. Barely a month goes by without reading a snide remark aimed at Victoria Beckham, for example, who is apparently too slim for some women to bear – or should that be bare? As the mother of two teenage daughters, I couldn’t agree more that we must work towards girls embracing a healthy diet rather than the belief that size zero is the only way to walk tall, but surely we can achieve that by reinforcing good eating habits and emphasising that sidewalks are not catwalks rather than inadvertently teaching them to be judgemental of others and less confident in themselves?
And it’s not just women who suffer from physical judgement.
The late Michael Jackson suffered the same brand of derogatory remarks. Whatever he did – or didn’t do – to his skin colour, nose or any other bit of his talented anatomy was his business. He was also very thin, but I cannot recall anyone making a fuss about that. Just speculation that ‘whacko Jacko’ was trying to turn himself into a white man. How insulting is that? And even if he were, that was his business.
Unless elective cosmetic surgery is hindering someone else’s medical surgery, I’m right behind anybody who feels they would like to make a change. So before I hop down from my soapbox, I’ll just say this:
I’d rather have botched Botoxed lips than a judgemental mouth.
Now I’m off to have a serious chat with my rumbling tummy.